Thursday, 28 February 2013

three going on thor

She'll be three in 10 days time and I've had NO idea what to get her for her birthday.


What do you get the kid who has four dolls, plays with them regularly, but ALL their accessories are imaginary? An empty box full of 'baby clothes'?

What do you get the kid who basically wants to be read to ALL day long, in a house already bursting with books? A paid drama student to read to her with all the appropriate voices?

What do you get the kid who has an older sister so there's one of everything she could want in the house already? Tea set - check. Dolls house - check. Blocks, books, dolls, puzzles, mini-kitchen etc - check.

What do you get the kid who has everything she needs really, but must have something to unwrap on her birthday morning right?

What do you get the kid who's currently a tyrannical torturous tantrummy tot with VERY SPECIFIC notions of what she does and does not like? A gift voucher? Ha ha ha.

I was at a dead loss until a few days ago when she declared, out of the blue, that she'd like a sword for her birthday. To fight dinosaurs, monsters, big frogs for mummy, baddies and dragons - in that order I think.
A sword.

So my question really is: would it be so wrong to get her a sword? Obviously not a proper goblin-made one, I can see how she doesn't quite have the fine motor control for that, but a nice hippie Waldorf one?

My mother is horrified, presumably at the notion of giving a 3 yr old a weapon. Husband is not supportive, declaring rightly so that a wooden sword can still inflict a lot of damage - namely to her sister.

But I'm more than a little tempted. I think there's something empowering about it, I like that she's casting herself as the hero in this particular imagining. I like that a sword can be a prop for an expanding selection of games including knights and vikings, intrepid explorers and swashbuckling adventurers.
Aren't we always told that the princess fantasy is a weak one, playing the victim waiting for a knight to swoop in and rescue the helpless maiden? Aren't we encouraged to teach our daughters they can be anything, they can be the rescuers, they can hold the power? Would there be as much objection to a boy wanting a sword for his 3rd birthday?

A year ago I'd have rejected the idea of giving a 3 year old a sword purely on the basis that I believe you don't give children weapons. But now, as she talks about her sword daily, and her birthday approaches, I'm not so sure.
What do you think?

11 comments:

  1. Go for it. And maybe a hobby horse too, so she can be her very own 'knight in shining armour'. We have a horrible plastic one that the 6yo adored but the 2yo has limited access to - he can't resist testing it's tensile strength at every given opportunity unfortunately, and there's only so much of that I can take!

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    1. Yes, hobby horse was on the (very short) list too!

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  2. There are wooden swords at my 3 year old's Waldorfian playschool and the kids love them, no injuries yet. I think you must get the father to make one out of plywood and cover the handle with beautiful soft fabric. You could also make her a sweet dagger-like sword like the little girl characters "Needle" in Game of Thrones.

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    1. The father is too busy on a Top Secret project for the bday party ... but I'm loving the 'Needle' idea.

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  3. Buy her a sword. Our kids have made swords from sticks, and even a gun from a piece of toast before. Our son was given a sword made from foam and a plastic one that has bubble mixture inside . Both hurt less than the lovely wooden one that DH bought in Knysna one holiday. (The one that now lives at the top of my cupboard ;). Other suggestions: Dress up clothes? Audio books? (Reading to her ALL day must really tie you down :) A night's castle? (or you could make one of those) A dragon or dinosaur piƱata?

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    1. Great suggestions! I've tried audio books though and there's an insistence that I 'sit with her' - rather defeats purpose ...

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  4. Buy her a sword. And, given the state of the world just now, kick boxing classes.

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    1. Her sister is generously teaching her all she needs to know about kicking!

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  5. Swords are for boys and girls are bad at science. Buy/make/steal her a sword and hope she never stops slaying dragons.

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